This past weekend found me in NYC with my family.
Being of the suburban nature, the middle aged nature and of the 1500 miles from my nearest sibling nature, I found myself missing them.
I know, right? What's with that? Me, Mr. Suburban wanna-be survivalist/farmer/fix-it type man. I should be the "go-it-alone, I can live by my suburban wits, who needs civilization" type that should be the "tough as Don Draper, cool as Frank Sinatra, insightful as Gandhi, as creative as McGiver and as stoic as an Amish Farmer"!
But alas, I miss my family.
I think about 100+ years ago, before there were airlines, reliable trains or even phones; when people moved out west to stake their land and make a go of it. They pretty much said goodbye to their immediate family. And those left in the city, were lucky to get a letter once a year containing information over 6 months old.
I hadn't seen many of my siblings for years. I was expecting them to look the same way I saw them several years ago. However, everyone was a little grayer and had a few more wrinkles.
I was, quite suddenly, struck by how quickly time passes. The reality of life made me pause.
The coils of my very mortal soul vibrated with reflective sadness.
How busy we all are, how sometimes petty differences create voids for ridiculous reasons and how "not having the time" stretches into a habit of excuse. We all suffer from these very simple human shortcomings. Suburban man is certainly no exception. But suffering from them, and not finding a cure, is my failure.
Before my eyes, my nieces and nephews aged dramatically; while it seemed that there was no discernible passage of time, two of them were adults. How did that happen?
While I buried myself in first renovating my home and now my yard, Suburban man unwillingly and willingly allowed himself to be taken over by life's myriad of issues thus letting Suburban man forget what is truly important.
Family takes many forms. There are the traditional ones, the extended ones and the accepted ones. Whichever yours is, please keep in mind, we all really have no concept as to how truly short life is really is until it's too late.
Make sure you don't wake up one day and realize how much time has passed.
We inhabit this earth for a very brief amount of time. There are turtles that live longer than us. Turtles!
Real families love you no matter what. Just remember that. It's such an amazing thing.
Green is Good.